One will cry, one will smile... both are healthier for it.

I have been working on two ladies as of late who are both great people. They are both dealing with similar issues, one due to a car accident and issues that were never fully addressed, the other dealing with chronic tension due to tough life stresses and life changes. Through multiple treatments, they both were seeing significant results. But sometimes, the body needs just a little bit more. And that little more that is needed is NOTHING that I can do. You must do it for yourself.

- With my first client, the one with the huge life stresses, I had mentioned to her that I believed her body was holding onto a lot of emotional and mental junk. Sometimes, when stuff gets you down and your become very stressed, your body goes through a ton subconsciously. We hold onto this junk like it means something. The problem is we generally have no clue that it is there. One way to help get rid of this problem: Cry like you've never cried before. In fact, sometimes, not often, but sometimes when I work on clients, they begin to cry... and don't know why nor can stop. It usually lasts a minute or so, but when done, they feel almost lighter, as if something was ripped out of their inner being. Crying, really crying, is an extremely efficient way the body can eliminate toxins and emotional baggage. When a loved one dies or one goes through a seriously life threatening/changing event, the body can go into a weird state of shock, almost like you've become unemotional. This is very detrimental to the body.

For example: 6 years ago, I lost my best friend due to a car accident. When I received the phone call, I had just finished with a massage client. During and after the call, I just stood there, unemotional. The drive home was unemotional. When my wife and mother met me to tell me the news (which they didn't know I already knew), again I was somewhat unemotional. You could tell that it was affecting me, but i wasn't crying and I wasn't showing a whole lot other than shock. His funeral wasn't for about a week and a half, and throughout that time I felt sick, sore, tight, unwilling to do a whole lot. Not once in that time frame did I emotionally let go. It wasn't until I was at the funeral that I just couldn't contain my emotions. It hit me like a ton of bricks and I just wept. I cried, and cried, and even though I went up to the podium and spoke about him, I cried at the end of my speech. When we put him into the ground, I was hurting so much. I just went into the car and almost let out my frustration, my anger, my sadness, and then... it was gone. My pain in my body, even my sadness for my best friend and his family. I was still saddened he was gone, but it was different than before. I came to grips of what happened, I let it go, and moved on. I always remember him, but I know deep down, that I haven't held anything in about his passing, and I am healthier for it.

My client decided to give this a try, and low and behold, the next time I saw her, she felt like a completely different person. She even mentioned that she has come to terms with things much easier after doing this. She cried for a few hours and felt refreshed. I actually couldn't believe how her body had changed.

- With my other client, I had actually used the crying scenario as an example for her, but she one upped me. She said that she felt that she just needed to be happier. The car accident was a thing of the past, coming to see me she was addressing her issues, and she needed to have a happier outlook on the things around her. So, she decided to start smiling more and stop letting little things get to her. And now she is doing much better than before. Being happy is truly the key to the fountain of youth. You can always tell who is happy compared to who isn't, even if initially they look the same. When you're sad, angry, or frustrated, you get wrinkles faster, you age faster, you get sick and stay sick much longer. When you're happy, your body's energy completely changes your body's chemistry. They have actually proven that when stressed, your own DNA changes.

I recently read an article about a man who lived to be 105 and was still alive. But he smoked cigarettes, drank beer, ate poorly and was very healthy, even at that age. Initially I was thinking, "yeah right", this goes against everything I do for a living. And then while diving into the article more and more, I came to the realization that this man was doing the one thing most important to keep his body strong, and that was to stay happy. Reading his quotes, you'd swear that he had NEVER been sad or depressed or angry. He thanked everyone around him for everything. Once I saw this, I knew why he had been able to live without diabetes, cancer, and all of the other ailments that strike our culture.

Being happy isn't as easy as it sounds, but at the same time it is. Come to terms on what is important and what is materialistic. That is the big battle right from the get go. When you can get to the point that you don't let useless things annoy you, then you're on your way to a healthy life. And don't fake being happy. Reach deep down into your soul. If you're truly happy, you'll know it and you wont have to convince yourself otherwise.

So, my friends, try these out. Sitting down and watching a movie that makes you cry every time and just letting it out can be very rewarding. I suggest "What Dreams May Come" with Robbin Williams. Since I've become a father, I can't keep from losing 5 pounds of water weight while watching that movie! Also, stay happy! Don't forget that every second you are alive is amazing and you get to experience all the world's wonders. And as bad as you think you might have it, there are 20 people within 10 miles of where you are that have it worse. And many of them have a brighter outlook on things. Don't give up, you can make it.

Stay Happy, Healthy, and Ready for Anything!